Gareth Bryant Writes

https://linguistictendencies.blogspot.com/2025/05/emotional-abuse-in-feminine-form-wound.html

Allah states: “And never let your hatred, against any People, prevent you from behaving justly.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)

Misogyny is a Real-Thing, but so is Misandry. There’s Men whom despise Women, not because they really want to. It’s actually because they disallow themselves to heal from their Negative-Experiences with Certain-Women and/or
Certain-Kinds/Types of Women. Women (for the Record) literally do the Same-Thing, as per their Negative-Experiences via Certain-Men and/or Certain-Kinds/Types of Men. And, then also: they aren’t allowed to have a Lane-Of-Healing…when Men complain about Things such as this then they’re told to just “Just stop hating Women.”. And, that’s literally just like telling any Woman whom hates Men as per their Traumatic-Experiences via Men to “Just stop hating Men.”.

Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Apathy/Arrogance is denying Truth & mocking People.”.
(an-Nawawī)

I really think/feel that People may have misunderstood the Context of the Aforementioned-Post. Just because a Person may not like someone it doesn’t mean they’re not sexually attracted to them. Are there Lots of Men whom don’t like Women…Yes Does their Disdain towards/against Women mean that they’re unwilling to have Sex with Women and/or are Male-Homosexuals…Hell-No. More often than not: if/when something like this is discussed amongst Certain-People, it’s almost exclusively & always manipulated to attack Masculinity of Men who’ve endured Negative-Experiences via Women.

Whenever the Subject of a Man’s-Trauma/Pain is brought forward: Certain-People (Men&Women alike) via any/every Background are prepared to shut it down. It frightens Lots of People, that More-Men are being vocal concerning how they view themselves as a Gender as well as how they view the Opposite-Gender (#SpoilerAlert: there’s only 2-Genders: Male & Female). This, naturally, plays-out most often via Sexual-Relationships. Although this can realistically manifest albeit via any other Human-Relationships…Sexual-Relationships are most focused on regarding as such. Be that as it may, however, Most-Men are reared/raised in Households, grow-up in Neighborhoods, influenced by Societies, etc. which’ve never really positively championed tapping into what makes a Man tick Psycho-Emotionally.

As per the Natural/Biological-Makeup of Men, the Historical-Status of Men via Human-History as Protectors, Providers, Warriors, etc. they’re not given the Allowance to be Interpersonally-Vulnerable, not even Intrapersonally-Vulnerable.

Not only is this is dangerous, it’s equally toxic for Lots of Reasons:

1. Men are indoctrinationated via this Mythos/Pseudo-Narrative that they’ve to be “Superman” 24/7…no Breaks.

2. Men aren’t socio-culturally permitted or sanctioned to feel/respond to Pain, Discomfort, Failure, Disappointment, Sadness, etc.

3. Men are expected to pretend that Things which legitimately affect them negatively to bear 0-Bearing on their Lives.

4. Men are expect to be calm&collective at All-Times, despite however taxing they’re Life-Challenges are.

5. Men are expected to be Psycho-Emotionally Bulletproof.

In spite of the Fact that there’s Immense-Truth/Honesty via the Aforementioned-Things like this are constantly/consistently weaponized to completely dismiss the Life-Challenges of Men regarding Women. There’s Lots of Fake-Woke Concepts, Movements, etc. which aim to address the Issues which Men face (Red-Pillism vs. Blue-Pillism, Simpism, Alpha-Maleism vs. Beta-Maleism, MGTOWism, Kevin Samuelism, High-Valueism, Prizeism, etc.)…they all come-up short. The Reason how/why: none of Those-Things are predicated upon al-Hudā/al-Hidāyah (Guidance), via al-Islām.

Allah states that both Men & Women were created as Supportive-Mechanism for one another. However, our Modern-World is becoming more hostile towards Harmony between Man&Woman.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.187; Chpt.51, V.49; Chpt.53, V.45; Chpt.75, V.39; at-Tabarī; as-Suyūtī)

Via the Aforementioned-Post…a Man was confronted by a Woman they’re with, whom wants them spend Extravagant-Amounts of Monies on their Wedding. The Man wants to invest that Same-Amount of Monies, to allow it to generate & evolved into More-Money. This-Man simply proposed to have a Simple/Small-Wedding via City Hall. This-Woman ended-up barking like a Hungry-Dog, exclaiming: “I’m not a City Hall Bitch!!!”. Oh, Yes they are.

As I a Chaplain, I’ve counseled Lots of Men (on a Daily) who’ve been scarred, via Personal-Experiences with Women. They’ve disclosed to me (via our Counseling/Therapy-Sessions, Casual-Convos, etc.) Multiple-Scenarios of how Women have domestically abused them, sexually abused them, physically abused them, psycho-emotionally abused them, socially abused them, financially abused them, etc. They’ve also mentioned that they’ve been hurt/heartbroken by them, that they’ve allowed themselves to be used by Women, that they’ve been cheated-on by Women, manipulated by Women, have had Women keep their Children from them, etc. Yet, These-Men are utterly mocked for being: “Dumb”, “Foolish”, “Weak”, “Doormats/Pushovers”, etc. & literally no one’s willing to provide any of them with Empathy&Support. And, as Time goes on: these Same-Types/Kinds of Men inculcate Immense-Levels of Animosity towards/against Women, exclusively based upon their Prior-Experiences with Certain-Women. Now, I agree: we’re all individually responsible for ensuring that we’re not gamed by anyone. However, no one deserves to be gamed either.

There’s so many Men like this, whom because of their Negative-Experiences: they literally hate Women & want to make any Woman suffer for what Other-Women have done to them. Or, they’re so distraught as per their Experiences: they then are no longer interested in pursuing/establishing Positive-Relationships with Women. They have allowed themselves to acquire Trust-Issues, thinking All-Women are Disloyal, Scammers, Manipulators, Users, Cheaters, etc. I’ve literally seen Social-Media Posts of Men: that which they’ve personally posted & that which they’ve shared via Other-Men…it contains so much Vitriol against Women that it’s quite disturbing to say the least.

There’s even Instances where Men whom I’ve known, personally counseled, etc. who’ve literally been driven to Depression, Suicide, Criminality, Homosexuality, etc. It’s truly abysmal that Men aren’t allowed to feel their Pain & also heal from it. As a Counselor/Therapist: it’s very challenging to bring Issues involving Male-Vulnerability. Now, I’m only 1-Person…there’s only so much any 1-Person can alone. But, as Communities, Socities, etc. we can do so more. The Question is whether or not we really care enough about each other, to actually help one another. As per my Conclusion: be empathetic&supportive to the Men in our Lives. We must help them, make them feel respected, allow ourselves to understand their Struggles, etc. We must provide them with Religio-Spiritual & Psycho-Emotional Resources, to keep them afloat & stable. We must be willing&able to listen to their Narratives, and they must know that we’re willing&able to listen. We must be Non-Judgmental, while approaching their Life-Experiences.

Gareth Bryant