Immaturity is a Spiritual/Psycho-Emotional Pathology. People refuse to admit it, but it’s precisely what it is. Most-Persons really refuse to evolve/elevate themselves. (As a Good-Student of Human-Nature/Behavior) I’m able to look at Various-Persons, via Various Walks-Of-Life, etc. and assess that the Way they show-up in the World currently is exactly how they showed-up when they were Teenagers. This results in observing how People eat, sleep, dress, walk, talk, handle their Personal-Hygiene, their Literature-Intake, the Kinds/Types of Entertainment they enjoy/indulge in, etc. Literally, all of this directly/overtly paints Vivid-Pictures of the Human-Lives we engage with daily.
This places People in a very Uncomfortable-Space. The Natural-Conclusion, of course, is to deny what I’ve detailed & run away. But, it definitely takes Courage to face this Head-On. As I always tell People: Courage isn’t the Absence-Of-Fear, it’s the Willingness&Ability to confront Fear. Confronting one’s own Demons is in fact arduous as well as scary, but equally as necessary to do so. We must/should all manifest Courage to push through our Apprehensions/Fears, regarding our Pathologies, in order to arrive at Healing.
The following is what Maturity looks like, additionally my Commentary of the Following-Picture:
1. Rhetoric is something which everyone wants to be “Expert” at. As Humans: we all want to be viewed as the Largest-Voice in the Room. Being the “Loudest-Voice” isn’t a “Flex”. Just as Allah states: “Most-Humans are argumentative about everything.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.18, V.54)
2. Self-Care is Life (quite literally)…as Allah states: “Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)
3. Forgiveness is a lot more powerful than Most-Persons ever give it Credit for. Forgiveness often feels like a Weekness, as opposed to the Strength it truly is. And, All-Humans are deserving of Forgiveness…the Stories of the Mass-Murderer & the Prostitute are Classic-Examples of this.
(al-Bukhārī)
4. Permeability is very important. It allows People to acquire understanding, to connect with Others…as Allah states that Humans were created & made into Various Walks-Of-Life to recognize, respect, each other.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.49, V.13)
5. Differring is natural, normal, etc. However, when those whom differ begin to think/feel that we’re “superior” because of our “Opinions”: that’s a Serious-Problem. There’s a Difference between being Right & being Correct. Just as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) said that amongst the Reasons how/why the Children-Of-Israel went astray: because of Pathological-Differing.
(an-Nawawī)
6. It’s humanly impossible to make anyone love us. Love is literally impossible without Respect-It’s impossible to love anyone/anything that’s unrespected. Also, most of us confuse Love with Infatuation. And, we allow “Love” to blind us to a Person’s-Negativity/Toxicity…as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) forewarned: “Beware of extremely loving someone, because you may have to hate them.”.
(at-Tirmidhī)
7. Heartache is never something easy to deal with. It’s painful, confusing, arduous, etc. However, much like All-Injuries: they can heal…the Pain doesn’t last forever. Muhammad (Peace be upon them) mentioned that Heartache is used by Allah, as one of the Ways to rid Humans of their Sins.
(al-Bukhārī)
8. Judgmentalism is predicated upon Apathy/Arrogance. The Mentality to judge Others as though one is “Perfect” is atrocious to say the least. Just as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: Apathy/Arrogance is denying Truth & mocking People.”.
(an-Nawawī)
9. “Silence is Golden.”, as the Ole-Saying goes. There’s Lots of Power via Silence (See 1. Rhetoric). Unfortunately, Most-Persons think/feel that Silence denotes “Weakness”. Anything but true. Silence reminds us to utilize the “Think before you speak.” Concept…as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) said: “Whomever believes in Allah & the Last-Day, then they must speak Goodness or be/remain silent.”.
(an-Nawawī)
10. Happiness is a Personal-Responsibility. No one can make us “happy”, but anyone can make us miserable. The Greatest-Blunder any Human does, via Human-Relationships: we audaciously/arrogantly expect Others to grant us Happiness…as Allah says: “Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.105)
Gareth Bryant
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